Chona Marie Elas, my mother
Everybody knows Lily Potter right? And I will assume that everybody also knows what she did to save Harry from the wrath of Lord Voldemort. Heroic, really. And for all good reasons, even though she is just a fictional character in the mega series, Harry Potter, she’s still a woman to look up to.
And to site some more, everyone is familiar with Sushmita Sen’s answer in the Ms. Universe Pageant (1994). She was asked, “What is the essence of being a woman?” And then she answered: Just being a woman is God’s gift. The origin of a child is a mother, a woman. Woman is sharing, she shows a man what sharing, caring, and loving is all about. That is the essence of a woman.” And by that, she redefined the word woman.
The Earth, as we know it, is referred to be as a woman; capable of fertilizing and reproducing. Maybe that’s the reason why a woman is born. She’s created not just to be a man’s partner, but she is also created to personify Earth and to give life to it. And because of that very reason, we came about into this world; enjoying its wonders and digesting its beauty.
Now I want to talk about my mom. Every year I send out lengthy messages during her birthday and mother’s day. This year, I’m doing the same. Actually, I tried to deviate from doing this because I dunno if she has the leisure to read it. However, an idea struck me. I thought of doing it anyway but this time, I’m gonna put to words what really is deep down my heart.
Our home is very different from others. We are not that expressive of our feelings for each other. Save of course for my mom and dad. They do that a lot. And when I say a lot, I mean a whole lot! Anyways, I grew up to be an introvert person. I’m all about keeping my feelings inside no matter how much I want to show them. That’s the reason why I can’t really express one hundred percent of my love to my mom because it’s against status quo.
But you know what I learned in life (and the shows from the US that I am watching)? It’s that life is never fair. It will take the people you love whenever it wants to. And by that time, you should’ve said already what you should say to them. For me, that’s kind of hard to put into actions. But I have to because I don’t want to regret at the end.
That’s the time I started writing for them whenever special occasions would come.
Okay! So my mom. She really has a mixed up temperament. She can be moody at times and that irritates me. Sometimes. She’s like the weather personified! And then, there’s her attitude of being kuripot. Peace mommy! But you are! But I’m going to take that as something positive. If she succumbed to whatever we like and give those to us, we will be spoiled lads growing up. And that’s hard!
But you know what I love the most about my mom, it’s her courage and strength. Since 2006, when my father left the Philippines to work abroad, she took over the responsibility to keep our home intact and balanced. Imagine doing all the work from sun-up to sun-down. And to make the matters crazy, she did what fathers should do as well. She learned how to use hammers, saws, screw drivers, pliers, and did electrician stuff! I have never seen a super human before. But looking at my mom, I guess I have already. And to think she has three sons all of whom she can boss around, alright?
For the past years, I’ve seen her work her stuff hard. And I was just there, sitting in front of the laptop doing my stuff. I guess that’s one of the things I will never forgive myself of doing. I turned a blind eye there and I know I shouldn’t have. For God’s sake she’s my mom! My mom who went through a lot for us and I didn’t do even a single simple help to show how much I care for her; to show how much I love her. All I ever did was write! But I never practiced what I preached! And I still don’t, not even now.
I always use the “I’m doing my best at school to show how much I care” as an excuse for my actions. But truth be told? I don’t know if what I’m doing at school is even enough. Maybe for me it is, but for my mom maybe it’s not. After all, we view the world differently from one’s eye to another.
But one thing my mom doesn’t know is, every night I pray, I pray for her and dad. That He will always guide them, protect them, give them good health and to forgive them their sins so that when judgment day comes we will walk as one family into His kingdom. I always thank Him for giving me a mother who cares and a mother whose patience is like longer than the circumference of the world! I wouldn’t want it the other way around.
To my mom, just give me one year. And then after that, I will be able to repay all the sacrifices you did for me all through these years. One year and I’ll be taking you places you’ve only been dreaming to visit. One year and it’s my turn to serve you.
Happy Mother’s Day!